This morning I had a pretty normal morning at work and then I got a text that frustrated me completely! I won't go into too much detail, but someone needs me to do them a favor that requires me to wake up pre-6 am on a Saturday morning and do something that puts me completely out of my comfort zone. Now, this person originally made a commitment to do this thing themself, but can't now because they need to be with a friend that is going through a very tough time right now. I understand this. I am sympathetic to this. Normally I would have no problem waking up early and being pushed out of my comfort zone for someone in this situation, but (there's always a but) this is a pattern. This person consistently makes commitments and then can't follow through with it and the burden falls to other people last minute (I am super surprised that I got 18 hours notice, normally I probably would have gotten a call at like 10 pm the night before). It makes me want to say no...but I can't, if I say no then someone else has to do it and it's my turn.
I'm trying a new thing: When I have a negative reaction to a situation I ask myself "what can I learn from this?" that way at least there is something positive to come out of an experience. Here's what I learned.
This person has a pattern of bailing, it sucks. It makes me wonder what my patterns are. I have a pattern of not answering my phone, or saying I will call someone and not doing it. Does that pattern frustrate the people in my life as much as this person's pattern frustrates me? When I have a legitimate excuse for not calling someone back is it ignored because I have offered either no reason or bad excuses in the past? Ick, I'm no better than this person. Learning a lesson is hard :( I will try to do better. I probably will still not answer my phone (sorry) but I will make an effort to call people back when they leave me messages!
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